Let's be real, you hear about it in music, see it in movies, and kids talk about it at school; needless to say, the theme of sex is everywhere. Our generation really struggles with lust, porn, and casual sexual relationships because many lack intimacy with God. Humans were created to desire closeness and intimacy, but instead of running to God and seeking a closer relationship with him, many have run to sex. Chasing sex leads to temporary satisfaction and a series of unmet expectations, But God fills every void and meets every expectation.
God created sex for marriage, however, sex has been distorted and used as a pass time. There are countless reasons as to why we should strive for abstinence and flee from fornication, but here are a few.....
The Bible clearly addresses sex
The bible is the word of God, it is timeless and will always be the greatest source!
The Bible never changes, so every single commandant and mandate is still relevant in today's society. Abstinence is typically deemed as “old-fashioned”. However, it is biblical, and God is pleased by it.
We were bought at a price
We can put on a price on cars, homes, and clothing; however, we could never put a price on our bodies (1 Corinthians 6:20), because the cost surpasses anything that money could ever buy. Our bodies are priceless, and for that very reason, God wants us to honor them. An innocent man was battered and bruised so that we could be set free from the bondage that we call sin. Our bodies are worth something, and we should never discount that!
I love Psalm 139:14 it says, “I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.” Because we are fearfully and wonderfully made we should hold ourselves to a great standard. Our standards as children of God will never match the standards of the world, but that's ok because we don't belong to this world (John 15:19). Our society echoes the concepts of casual sex, one-night stands, and immodest dressing; but we shouldn't compromise our worth to “fit in”, or get attention. When you look at diamonds are they crying out for justification? Or approval? No! Diamonds are so beautiful and valuable that they draw attention simply because they're diamonds.
Rarely are diamonds ever advertised, because their worth is obvious. Do you know that your body is worth more than any diamond? You don't need to dress inappropriately, sleep with someone, or belong to a certain crowd to gain worth. Remember that you're a child of a king, your worth is found in him. You're priceless purely because you are his!
Our bodies belong to God
We were made in God’s image (Genesis 1:26), how remarkable is that? He could've given us any other image but instead, he gave us his own. So we should never take the sacredness of our bodies lightly. We should dedicate everything that we have to God; because he is our provider.
Therefore we should honor our bodies and refrain from premarital sex because that's what he has asked of us. God has given us everything, withholding from sex is the least that we can do.
We must be good stewards
In the bible there is a parable about 3 servants that were given talents (money); we read that the servant with the least talents stewarded them well, and received more talents due to his faithfulness (Matthew 25:14-30). What does this have to do with sex? Well God has entrusted us with our bodies, and sometimes it may seem like you're “missing out” therefore it may be tempting to give in. However, some promises and blessings are unlocked when you're faithful with what God has given you. In the parable, the other servants didn't value what they were given, and as a result, they didn't reap as well as the faithful servant. It may seem like God hasn't given you much to be responsible for, but he has. We don't have control over several things on this earth, but we do have control over our bodies. It's empowering to know that God gives us several opportunities to honor him, and abstinence is one of those opportunities.
Sex before marriage complicates things
I strongly believe that we as humans were not meant to have multiple sexual partners. There is no security when you have sex outside of marriage, however when you're married to someone that you truly love then you don't have to worry about several things. Sex before marriage commonly leads to STDs, unwanted pregnancies, abortions, and intense heartbreak. Because God created sex for marriage, every time that you sleep with someone that isn't your spouse you become spiritually attached to them. However, there is a better option for us as children of God. Let's be real, do happily married couples ever wish that they slept with more people? When the time comes and you get married, you're going to be so happy that you waited, because your past relationships are going to be so irrelevant.
A guy can say that he loves you a million times, but if he's not willing to wait with you then his motives are quite evident. When you're saving yourself for marriage dating becomes much easier; you're able to “weed out” potential guys based on their view of sex, you're not overly attached, and lastly, you're able to fully embrace God in your relationship. You don't want to put your purity on the line for a relationship, simply because it's not worth it.
I know we live in a world where casual sex is the norm, and abstinence is mocked. But we have no reason to stray from purity, we were made for it! Sex was designed by God to enjoy in marriage and marriage alone. Sexual sin breeds a culture that we have no business being apart of. Don't give your boyfriend husband privileges, you're worth way more than that. Even if you never end up having sex, your better off that way because you honored God with your body. Remember that your choice to be abstinent isn't a “popular” one, but it's a biblical one. Our society has elevated the sexual “benefits” of boyfriends and belittled the design of sex. If you’ve already had sex but you want to wait, it is never too late to start again! God is a merciful God and he will help you not only get free but stay free. Your greatest reward is sanctification, and Christ will help you stay pure if you acknowledge him. A streamline of regret isn't worth a moment of pleasure. So let's take this vow together ladies! We're putting sex on the backburner!
Additional verses pertaining to sex
-I Corinthians 6:19
- Hebrew 13:4
-1 Corinthians 6:9
-1 Thessalonians 4:3-5